I decided to interview my brother who is currently 13 years old. He has a friend who is a male & bisexual. They have known each other from a young age and I’ve watched their friendship grow as well as the person they have become. I never asked how it feels to be friends with him because I feel like it’s different with girls and boys. Most of my guy friends use the word “gay” as an insult or to make fun of things. In order to understand their friendship, I asked him a couple questions.
Q:Why are you close with Anakin?
A: I’m close with him because we’ve known each other since the 2nd gradeand been friends ever since. I guess we just have a good bond.
Q:What kinds of things do you like to do together?
A:Well we usually like to play video games and just chill together when we have time.
Q:How do you feel about him being bisexual?
A: I don’t have a problem with it, like it’s his choice and if he’s happy then I’m happy for him.
Q: What happens if he likes you?
A: That’s impossible because we know each other’s boundaries and we’re basically brothers.
Q:Have you ever told your friend how much he means to you?
A:I don’t think I have to need to since we’ve been friends for like 7 years, that basically just shows that our friendship means a lot to each other.
I analyzed that maybe at a young age, they don’t really know how to express their feelings. In “No Man Is an Island: Men in Relationships” by Christopher Kilmartin and Andrew P. Smiler, they describe different types of relationships and I feel like they’re friendship is more in the “buddy” stage since they don’t show much emotional support. They just vibe with each other and enjoy doing activities together.
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