“I can’t be myself,” is the phrase I hear most often when I watch this film. The film gave me the most significant feeling is that I found around the boyfriend also has the same trouble. He grew long hair but was often mistaken for a woman, which made him uncomfortable. Some common words often affect their brains and thoughts. They will start to think. Boys should not cry; boys should not feel afraid; boys should become active and productive, to bring happiness to the family. I can feel that this is not what they think, and society’s perception of men affects everyone. They often don’t feel who they are, and they can’t be themselves because they’re male.
Another point is that the slightest act of intimacy on the part of a boy is considered gay. For some men, being gay can have negative consequences. When they are mistaken for gay men, their first reaction is helplessness and dislike the word ‘gay.’ And the girl, I have a very good girlfriend, go to the toilet together, go to school together, hold hands and hug. We were also misunderstood as lesbian, but we were not uncomfortable with it, and we treated it as a joke, and it didn’t affect us at all. Genetic differences also influence behavior and thinking. So I think there are small differences between boys and girls at birth. But it shouldn’t be as deformed as it is.
In the book that Carlos Andres Gomez wrote that he often wanted to express his love for his family and friends, but he did not know how to express his true feelings. He was very disappointed. Because he often disguises his real thoughts, he does not know how to express them. This phenomenon, I also see from the film. Many men don’t know how to express themselves. They hide their feelings and weaknesses because “real men” don’t show weaknesses. This is not the kind of freedom that is advocated in today’s society, the views of the community always influence them, and that strikes me as deplorable.
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