The documentary shows different aspects of masculinity, how boys became men and how it changed their lives. It’s hard to watch the video a bit because I can feel their pain through their manly voice. We can’t even see who get bullied in middle school. The researchers said that 1 of 4 boys get bullied in school and 30% notify by adults. It is such a shame because some adults doesn’t even intervene and they think it’s the way to make them a man. Also, some boys wants to play with girls that is one of the reasons they get bullied because boys should “only” play with boys. Furthermore, 99% boys plays video games. They play video games because it is for men, they said. Violence is more likely to define how to be a man. It’s just disappointing to say that masculinity needs violence which is in fact it isn’t. Thirdly, sex violence is scary especially for women. Every 9 seconds, women get sexual assaulted by men. They think that it’s normal because of what they’ve seen online wanted or unwanted, maybe influenced by friends. But it’s actually unmanly, true men knows the true value of a woman.
In Carlos Andres Gomez book, a part that got my attention was when he wants to show affection to his family and friends but he’s tired of not being able to express his true feelings rather hide it and he’s disappointed about it. The documentary helped me understand that men are just only tough on the outside but they have feelings and emotions too that they cannot express because “true” men don’t show any weaknesses. They do manly things in order to be masculine. No matter how tough they are, they feel pain, sadness and even fear.
” I’m tired of not being able to show affection to my brothers and friends. I’m tired of feeling like I have to hide my emotion and my sensitivity.”
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