There’s a lot of aspects in the documentary that got my attention. First, how the media demonstrate hyper-masculinity and hyper-femininity. Second, how school standards and hierarchy between boys grows masculinity, meaning how if you don’t play sports, swear, drink or having sex in high school, you can be looked down upon from others, which then you force yourself to do some things you don’t want to do. Third, how sometime schools and its teachers affect the increase in students dropping out in high school. By suspending students because of their bad behavior without knowing why some students are behaving this way. This limits their commitment to education which leads them to dropout.

The first aspect got my attention, because I never realized how the use of colors for example for toys is to seperate the genders. But for the two other aspects, it’s because it was so relatable to me while growing up. However, I didn’t know the magnitude and effect it is causing.

What got my attention in Gomez’s book, is how he doesn’t censor on his past experiences, like the part where he hooks up usually with a girl at his college parties but outside of the parties, they don’t communicate. By watching the documentary I understand better Gomez’s experiences.

In the documentary, the boy who are different, actually are gentler and softer than boys around him, are bullied at school really jumped out at me. Because I am a mom of two boys, while I was watching the aspect I doubted whether my boys would be bullied some day for my education which were to lead them to become a gentle and nice man. I begin to think about not only the education to my boys but also the major education to boys in my city. As well as school bully, the rate of drink, smoke, playing PC games, et. caught my attention too. It make me consider how to guide my boys gain interesting and healthy life, how to help them gradually grow strong enough to tell right from wrong.

In Carlos Andres Gomez book, the author said “he (his dad) is one of the most cultured and open people I have met. And yet he is still a human being. Aren’t we all? He’ll quietly encourage and enforce all of these masculine norms but still tell me to love and appreciate everyone.” which also got my attention. Carlos didn’t hate but understand his dad although his dad incorrectly educated him in some point of view. Compared with the documentary, one of the psychologist and educator, at the end of the documentary, expressed his forgiveness and pity for his father. Both Carlos and the psychologist and educator eventually understand there is no perfect dad or parents, there are only human beings who all grow up in the mask which may lead them to make mistakes unconsciously. These two aspects really make me relax a lot.